I have been thinking about the recent sexual harassment that’s been in the news, and more specifically the story about Aziz Ansari. Men seem to think that women should be flattered if they are attracted to us, and they show it without restraint. Maybe we’ve evolved in our behavior so that men think this way? This is especially true if the man is “successful”, famous, etc. Women may have a responsibility in this in that they need to stop judging themselves by their attractiveness to men, or by their ability to attract a man. This ability can sometimes be counter to what actually would make them feel good inside, such as feelings of accomplishment or intrinsic self worth. In a way, women may even have trained men to behave this way. I believe it’s time for women to stop judging themselves by how attractive they are, or by their ability to attract a man, but by who they are.  And to let men know that their wanton sexual desire for you is not what you’re looking for, but respect and admiration for who you are as a person. The sexual attraction part will naturally follow.